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There are three stages in the life of a man!
Satge1: He thinks for himself only.
Stage2: He thinks for his Family, world and whole earth.
Stage3: He has his true purpose to live and he lives as Gift for the whole world, He has no worry to please anyone and and he has no worry as well to make anyone happy, he lives the way he wants to live and all the time whatever happens in his life and world around him gets huge potential, love, care and benefits for him! that is the way of the superior man! He is the gift for the whole world.
Very bold chapters in the book:
- Stop Hoping For a Completion of Anything in Life.(work is never ending Process)
2. Live As If Your Father Were Dead.
3. Be Willing to Change Everything In Your Life;
4. Women Are Not Liars;
5. You Will Often Want More Than One Woman;
6. Your Excellent Track Record is Meaningless to Her;
7. She Want’s the “Killer” In You;
Quote1: Keep going that is just life and the way. LIfe is a journey not a destination!
“Most men make the error of thinking that one day it will be done. They think, ‘If I can work enough, then one day I could rest.’ Or, ‘One day my woman will understand something and then she will stop complaining.’ Or, ‘I’m only doing this now so that one day I can do what I really want with my life.’ The masculine error is to think that eventually things will be different in some fundamental way. They won’t. It never ends. As long as life continues, the creative challenge is to tussle, play, and make love with the present moment while giving your unique gift.”
Quote2: Are you really living up-to full potential that you don’t care if you just die! Fear of death goes away when you take life up-to full potential.
“If you were to die right now, what would be the feeling texture of your last moment? Are you feeling the infinite mystery of existence, so that your last moment would be one of awe and gratitude? Is your heart so wide open that your last moment would dissolve in perfect love? Or, are you so absorbed in some task that you would hardly notice death upon you, until the last instant, whoosh, and everything is gone?”
Quote3: Beat mediocrity do something that you have done before! Embrace your limits and get crazy enough sometimes if possible.
To help you remember the triviality of your daily tasks, interrupt your schedule with refreshers. These refreshers should cut to your core and strip the fat off the moment. Consider your own death. Behold an image of the most enlightened being you know. Contemplate the mystery of existence. Relax into the deepest and most profound loving of which you are capable. In your own way, remember the infinite, and then return to the task at hand. This way, you will never lose perspective and begin to think that life is a matter of tasks. You are not a drone. You are the unbounded mystery of love. Be so, without forgetting your tasks.”
Quote4: Self discipline is the key to success.
The core of your life is your purpose. Everything in your life, from your diet to your career, must be aligned with your purpose if you are to act with coherence and integrity in the world. If you know your purpose, your deepest desire, then the secret of success is to discipline your life so that you support your deepest purpose and minimize distractions and detours.”
Quote5: Give it a little more than you can do. A little progress everyday!
In any given moment, a man’s growth is optimized if he leans just beyond his edge, his capacity, his fear. He should not be too lazy, happily stagnating in the zone of security and comfort. Nor should he push far beyond his edge, stressing himself unnecessarily, unable to metabolize his experience. He should lean just slightly beyond the edge of fear and discomfort. Constantly. In everything he does.
Quote6: Face your fear and embrace chances of success.
“By leaning just beyond your fear, you challenge your limits compassionately, without trying to escape the feeling of fear itself. You step beyond the solid ground of security with an open heart. You stand in the space of unknowingness, raw and awake. Here, the gravity of deep being will attend you to the only place where fear is obsolete: the eternal free fall of home. Where you always are. Own your fear, and lean just beyond it. In every aspect of your life. Starting now.
Quote7: Be the best version of yourself! the one from the one who was yesterday!
Make your life an ongoing process of being who you are, at your deepest, most easeful levels of being. Everything other than this process is secondary. Your job, your children, your wife, your money, your artistic creations, your pleasures – they are all superficial and empty, if they are not floating in the deep sea of your conscious loving.”
Quote8: There is no shame in accepting your fears because these are just fears nothing else after all.
“A free man is free to acknowledge his fears, without hiding them, or hiding from them. Live with your lips pressed against your fears, kissing your fears, neither pulling back nor aggressively violating them.”
Quote9: Whatever you are and whatever is happening to you, you are the only one who is responsible for that!
“You are entirely responsible for cutting through your own laziness, addictions, and unclarity. There is nothing to wait for and nobody to blame. Whatever techniques are appropriate, use them. Try talking with your friends, using therapy, practicing meditation or prayer, going on a vision quest, reading scripture, walking in nature, keeping a journal, or studying with a teacher. Remember that your success with any method you choose depends entirely on your actual commitment to discovering your deepest truth and aligning your life with it.”
Quote10: The best you can get from anyone is yourself and yourself only! It is the way.
“Once you have grown into independent adulthood, you no longer need somebody to take care of you. You can be responsible for yourself. In particular, you realize that you are responsible for your own happiness. Nobody can live your life for you. You must create your own health, success, and happiness. This sense of self-responsibility is only a partial maturity, however. Beyond self-responsibility lies the responsibility to give your gift. It is important to grow beyond dependence on your intimate partner for your own happiness. But it’s equally important to grow beyond simple independence and autonomy. The next stage of intimacy after personal independence has been attained is the mutual flow of gifting, or serving each other in love.”
I just completed Audio version of “Soft Skills: The software developer’s life manual” and same after completing of new-skills/books/courses I go with a blog-post, Because I always feel that you can never observer whole book by reading it once and you always need to re-learn things over time because sometimes to learn really new things, you also have to forget some of the stuff to learn some of new things as well, And I guess that is one of the most important thing I learned over last few years after my College. So writing a Blog-Post is one of thing I do to Enhance/Validate/Preserve new learnings.
When I first saw John Z. Sonmez on Youtube My first thought was like ” He is so fit, Is he really Software-Engineer” 🙂 How wrong I was.
You can get connected with John here.
Ok here comes the Validation of Knowledge about the book mentioned above. You can also use this blog-post to get Excited about book and add it to your Reading List. I am sure you will feel that here is something so common but fresh-about this book, As I am feeling right now that may be I will always read/listen this book at-least once a year.
Be a Specialist: Special Skill is like Brahmanda Astra.
it really does not matter how much you are curios about new technologies but there must be one skill that you will be so good that you can represent yourself at top 1% in your Area/Geo-location/Company/Industry and make sure while doing good amount of work using that skill your produce more Quality than quantity. Alongside that special-skill you must be knowing about sister technologies of that particular skill. There is one more another important thing to remember and that is “Don’t get religious about any particular Technology. “
Learn to Sell yourself High Enough.
Selling yourself only means “Be so great so that nobody can ignore you” but that also does not mean you must write code and build great-softwares by sitting 18-20 hours for day in your basement. You must have off-line as well as on-line good circle of Professional and Merchants in your life. You must have good amount of blog post about the skills you you have learned over time alongside the skills you are learning now due to that you would be so connected with the outside world and most of the people would be knowing that what you really are doing in life.
Salary Negotiation: It’s always good to negotiate because your Employer know that “It’s good to bargain”
When it comes to salary negotiation it is true that you must be able to know how much you are worth as well as how much more money you need except from your living Expenses. No doubt if you have reached at the level of Salary-Negotiation that means you have already know how much Employer could offer but it never hurts to take that “Moment into bit more negotiation”, Now may be A question could be arise in your mind and that is How really I have to do that? Believe me I am not the guy who can explain it so good as John has descried in the book. So read the book. If you are fan of Audio-Books then Let me know, I will send you Audio version of that book But you will only able to get it free if this is your first book on Audible.com
Investment and Saving: Let your money work for you and you just be sit around to see it is growing. 🙂
So It is really easy to do actually, You just need to understand How much you are able to save and how much you really can do with that saving, Confusing? Money sitting in Bank has no value until or unless you are able to make more of that than Banks do make, and how is that thing possible? There are Wide range of options one can go for like Options-Trading, Futures-Trading, Real State Investment, Making/Investing in one of your own Software Product and many other things. 🙂
For more information about Stocks and Futures please follow the following Articles:
Body and Mental Fitness: The way you look, The way your brain does lot of work for you. 😉
There must be really good work-out routine we have to follow/do unless or until you really are not interested growing your brain over the time, Yes that is true only because you have Pump your blood almost everyday and you also have to burn fat, So start running and going to Gym because it is the only way you can not just make your body healthy but also sharp your mind over time.
Diet and Nutrition: You are what you consume.
There is nothing much to say about Diet and eating habits, But make sure you are eating less calories whole day because you have to sit for the most of the day. 🙂
Power of Persistence: Hang in there!
Things work as much as you are staying there for things to make work. Sometimes it takes some time for the results to show up but at some level you have to wait more and let the things fall into the place.
Special One: How money Works.
I never expected John will also talk about great things about Money and Capitalism as well, To understand this you must have to learn so much stuff and I might not be the person to tell you on this short post that how money works and how you should take it into account. Simple thing about Money is Banks are creating lots of vitalized clusters to generate/initiate the flow of money among different countries and different inside different industries.